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Have you ever stood in front of a mirror and criticized your body? Maybe pinched your stomach or looked at your thighs and thought, “If only my stomach was flatter, or my thighs were leaner…”
Have you ever walked by a window on the street and glanced at yourself, only to suck in your stomach or cringe and think, “Ugh, you’re so fat, so ugly, so x,y,z…”?
Have you ever thought, “If only my body was x,y,z, life would be better,” or “If only I could fix my belly, thighs, boobs, arms, chin, etc., I’d be happy…”?
Do you struggle with your health, your weight, your relationship to food and/or body and wish that there was something or someone who could just fix it?
These are just a few of the thoughts that go through the average woman’s head every day. The woman’s brain is one complex machine and it’s time that we learn how to harness that power and strength for good rather than self-deprecation and misery…
A “Fixing” Culture
Our culture has pretty much set women up to fail for the last 60+ years. We live in a world that has become obsessed with dieting as a way to “control” the mind and body.
(Unfortunately, biology has something different to say about “control,” but I’ll save that for a different post.) 🙂
Everywhere we turn, we are promised a new “fix” and
99.9% 100% of the time it’s a superficial fix that will last for a day, week, or month (if you’re “lucky”).
It’s a new diet, a new pill, a new superfood, a new supplement. All packaged up with grand promises and unicorn sprinkles that THIS will FINALLY be the “fix” you need…
Did you know that over 95% of women who have been polled in North America are dissatisfied with their body and their weight?
That’s a pretty powerful statistic when you realize that it means 9 out of 10 women you know are in a relationship with their body that is based on hate.
In any given week when you poll women, over 80% are on some sort of diet.
Yet, the majority of people who lose weight on a diet gain it back (and then some) within a year. When you do a meta-analysis of all the research on weight loss and diets, you will see that almost ALL people (98%-99%) who lose weight on a weight loss diet GAIN IT BACK (and then some in many cases).
When asked, approximately 4 out of 10 girls, ages 5-7 years old, will say “I’m on a diet.”
Where did they get that idea? Why are little girls, who should be playing, growing, and developing without a care, feeling the need to diet? Umm, they get it from that 80% of women who, when polled above, said they are on a diet. And then, there’s the media…
Our young children are starting their distorted, dysfunctional relationship with food and body at a shockingly young age. This is a silent epidemic because it tears at the deepest level of our hearts and souls as girls and women. It affects our health and it affects who we are in the world.
When we have a world of disempowered women, the world simply cannot progress in the way that it should.
(Info above via my instructor, Marc David, from the Institute for the Psychology of Eating.)
It’s Time for a New Paradigm
It’s obvious that what we have been doing as a culture regarding weight and body has not worked. We have not failed the diets, the diets have failed us.
Diet culture has failed us.
We need to change what we are doing and start exploring new ideas. And today, I’ve got a radical new idea for you to try on and explore:
This is a hard one, trust me. I get it. I have been a fixer my entire life and it’s only been in the last year that I have finally released my death grip on my mission to fix myself.
The topic of “fixing” is one that I am pretty passionate about and I recently wrote an article on my health coaching website all about it. I’d love for you to hop over and read it here.
It’s time that we, as women, stop fixing, start living, and begin thriving!
If you are a fixer, have no fear, you are not alone. Fixing is a habit that can be changed. It’s a mindset that has become so ingrained into the dark reaches of our psyche that it feels like the truth. But when brought into the light, you discover that there is no truth in the belief at all. It’s just another line of bullsh** that we’ve been fed.
The very first thing we can do to stop fixing and start thriving is to cultivate awareness around the idea.
This takes time. It takes some practice. It takes some willingness to dig inside a little and evaluate your desire to fix yourself. This idea goes against pretty much everything we’ve been taught as women and girls. It can be a little painful. But it can also be intensely liberating.
If you are a fixer and feeling a bit overwhelmed with life, health, food, and/or body, maybe it’s time to reach out for some help. There’s nothing wrong about asking for help. It doesn’t mean you’re weak or you’re broken. It means you’re ready to grow and take your life to the next level. It means you’re ready to have a mentor by your side, cheering you on, and encouraging you to go the distance.
I’ll be bringing on a few new clients later this summer (2017) and it would be an honor to talk to you about your desires for your life. If you would like to be notified when I am available for new clients, please subscribe to my weekly newsletter and you’ll be the first to know. You will also receive a complimentary copy of my The 21-Day Self-Care Guidebook, which will help you kick off your self-care practice easily and effortlessly.
To YOUR health, with love,