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Recently, one of my mentors, Alyssa Nobriga, posted a really funny quote on social media and I laughed and appreciated it at the same time. It said:
“I stopped waiting for the light at the end of the tunnel and lit that bitch up myself.”
Pardon the language for those who are easily offended, but I found this to be SO true and it inspired me to reflect some more and write this blog post. I’ll share the original image at the bottom of this post.
So often in our lives, we sit around waiting for another human to provide us with the solution to our challenges. This puts us in a victim mentality because it removes the power from our hands and places it in someone else’s.
It also causes us to put our lives on hold because we don’t have “the right answer”. Trust me when I say, life is short. You know that I firmly embrace this fact based on my own personal loss this year. None of us should be putting our lives on hold for anything or anyone because we never know when our time may be up.
In reality, 99% of the time, we already have the answers inside of us. Our intuition is there to guide us, though many of us feel cut off from that source of power and wisdom. If you are a spiritual person, then you may find this intuition is tightly connected to your higher power. That’s why I specified that we often sit around waiting for another human to provide us the answer. I am a firm believer in the power of prayer and asking for guidance in my life from a higher power.
Now, sometimes we do need some extra support from a human. Sometimes we need to reach out to other for advice and guidance. Sometimes we don’t know how to move forward unless we get some outside input. And that is totally fine.
It is OK to ask for help so I don’t want you to feel like it’s not.
But this is what I see happening when we begin to rely solely on the insight of other people: Unless we get the exact answer we are looking for, we cease to take action.
We continue to search around for whatever it is that we feel we must have before we move forward. It causes us to get stuck in our life and the longer we stay stuck, the more life we miss out on. We start to lose confidence in ourselves and our ability to make the “right” decision.
So this week, I want to encourage you to be the solution you are looking for. Whatever challenge you may face, know that you have the strength and the power to handle it, to come up with a solution for it, and to move forward through your tunnel.
If you need a little extra support, then that is OK, but promise me that if you ask for advice from someone that you will take action in some way, regardless of whether the advice is exactly what you were looking for.
Don’t stay stuck!
If you are feeling stuck and need some guidance and insight on how you might be able to move forward, then I would love to speak with you. Reach out to me here and let’s set up a time to have a complimentary call to help you identify the areas that are keeping you in “the stuckness” so you can finally move forward into the life you’ve always dreamed about!
P.S. If you’re ready to say goodbye to the years of feeling out of control and compulsive around food (resulting in body shame) and shift into a place of peace and freedom then I can help. Come join my 7-day Food & Body Freedom eCourse (it’s free!) here. This eCourse came from my passion for helping women transform their relationships to food and body. What you desire IS truly possible if you are ready, open, and willing. It is time to say goodbye to the years of control, compulsive behaviors, limiting beliefs, scarcity of joy, and actions driven from a place of fear and feelings of unworthiness, once and for all. Learn more and sign up here.
P.P.S. Here’s the original image from Alyssa: